Monday, May 26, 2014

How to Speak Well and Confidently (Part 2)

Speaking Well
1 Talk loud enough for everyone to hear. While you do not want to cry, you should speak loud enough so people do not have to ask you to repeat yourself. Speaking softly or quietly make people think you 're shy and not confident in what you're saying - you do not really want to be heard anyway.
·         If you speak softly, not only to others who can not hear what you say, but also will play a submissive attitude, suggesting the opposite of a confident one.
·         On the other hand, does not like to speak so loudly that you are talking about people just to be heard. His words alone should draw the attention of people.
2 Expand your vocabulary. Read as much as possible, from online journals, such as slate or Salon.com to serious literature as Anna Karenina. The more you read, the more you will know and be wider vocabulary. You will learn new words and understanding of new sentences without even knowing it, and soon, you'll be using the words you read while you 're talking. Having a large vocabulary is a must if you really want to talk well.
·         This does not mean you have to throw $ 100 fifty words in their everyday speech or whenever conversations. Only a few key words " fantasy " can make you look smart, but not like you're trying too hard.
·         Keep a daily vocabulary. Write down all the new words you've encountered when reading and define them.
3 Avoid excessive jargon. If you want to be well-spoken, then you can not go around using jargon or too casual phrasing. Of course, if your audience is young and modern, which does not seem too formal or stilted, but avoid saying things like, "Guys, " or "Hella " or " ! Nailed " or what phrases are turning in their culture these days.
·         Of course, if you're talking to friends, then slang is fine, but if you are facing a more mature audience and want to talk well then you should avoid.
4 Do not be afraid to pause. Some people see the pause as a sign of weakness, but this is definitely not the case. It's okay to pause to collect your thoughts and think about what you're going to say next. What is much worse is talking too fast and it sounds as if wandering, being frantic or even say something you will reg’ret immediately. Part of the slowdown and speaks thoughtfully means that pauses in his speech sound more natural.
·         If you use verbal pauses (like " um" or " uh " ) while speaking, not be too worried about it. It's just a natural way to get our minds up and even President Obama uses quite often. If you think you wear too much, you can try to lower the tone, but I think you have to completely avoid.

5 Use gestures only when necessary. Gesturing while talking is a great way to get your points across and to emphasize his words. But do not use your hands or gestures when you talk too much or you'll come off as a bit frantic, as if you were using your gestures to compensate, because his words are not enough. Instead, keeping your hands at your sides and using them in just a few key moments when talking will help you get your point across.
6 Speak concise. Another part of speaking well means knowing what not to say. You may think that you have to give ten examples to prove some point, but in reality, you may only need just one or two, and your ideas will come off more strongly by the best points have been selected instead of throwing around the sink the kitchen in the audience that you are targeting. If you are giving a speech, then every word has to count ; if you are talking with friends, remains the best way to avoid rambling.
·         If you are giving a speech, and then write it and say it out loud. Reading their own words can help you see where you're being repetitive, and things you like to cut.
7 Repeat the main points. You may think that the statement of the main points once is enough and that the public will get what is most important in what you have to say. Well, that's where you're wrong. If you have a few main points you really want to get through, whether you're addressing a crowd or trying to make a point during a discussion with a friend, stating your main points again, perhaps at the end of the conversation or speech, will help you define your message and make your point even more clearly.
·         Think about how to write an essay. You have to repeat your main points at the end of each paragraph and at its conclusion, right? Well, talk is not so different.
8 Use concrete examples to grab your audience. Concrete examples are the bread and butter of any discourse or conversation. If you want to convince your audience to use renewable energy or convince your best friend to dump her loser boyfriend, you have to present some cold, hard facts to the attention of people. Select statistics, anecdotes or stories that will get you more effectively its point across. Remember, this is not a million pull your audience statistics - it's about using a few key points that will truly remember.

·         Tell a story or two. If you are giving a speech, a story at the beginning or end can help to make their points in a more humane manner.

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